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  1. 1. Does M3Me post too much across the board?

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Er, never quite understood how this "dropping the camera with the flash on" worked, in your initial post, to be honest. They didn't notice the flash going off ?

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I don't know, as I obviously wasn't there. So I don't know the full story. That's the way Heidi put it this morning, which is probably the exact same words he used when he produced the pictures. Although she may find it amusing and harmless the morning after, I don't believe for a second that she would allow it to happen at the time.

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I think your main problem is that she goes out drinking and dancing with this guy in the first place. That's between you and her

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They've never been out before, it was the first time and ***** (the dentist) declared it was on him. Heidi had mentioned that she was going to have a night out with the girls she works with, but any mention of him (given the past history of comments etc) and I would have gone too (if he's there she can't use the 'girls night' excuse). I have been on a course in Southampton since Monday, so obviously I wasn't even in a position to suggest I go with them.

Unfortunately that turned me into the annoying boyfriend who was texting most of the night and I ended up being up until I knew she was in bed.

And I asked if she'd danced with ****** and she laughed and said no as he doesn't dance.. I guess he's quite happy watching from a distance. I assume the picture taking happened when they were stood/sat in a group or something.

I must say I'm also quite baffled how someone who didn't get home till at least 3:30am who's in work at 8:30am has time to print pictures to bring in.. unless of course it was a priority for him as some kind of boast.

It seems sicker the more I think about it. frown.gif

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He can do for me..so long as it isn't with my girlfriend.

The dick has a wife (separated), kids, 3 other girlfriends on the go.. I haven't met him but apparently he's nothing special.

If only it weren't for you boys AS, I'd be up there like a shot wink.gif

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They've never been out before, it was the first time and ****** (the dentist) declared it was on him. Heidi had mentioned that she was going to have a night out with the girls she works with, but any mention of him (given the past history of comments etc) and I would have gone too (if he's there she can't use the 'girls night' excuse). I have been on a course in Southampton since Monday, so obviously I wasn't even in a position to suggest I go with them.

Unfortunately that turned me into the annoying boyfriend who was texting most of the night and I ended up being up until I knew she was in bed.

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That does sound a bit of a grim position to be put in, actually. I can understand your annoyance mad.gif

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The consensus is that what he did was wrong!

The consensus is that she should adress the issue with him, rather than you doing it.

Is she prepared to have a chat, mentioning that you were upset, aghast and concerned that he has been taking pictures of her bits, even if she had girdle pants on, it's still wrong.

Make a big thing about him posting pictures or sms'ing them to strangers or friends. The pictures need to be deleted and killed, end of story.

If he gets sh1tty about it, there's 3 x witnesses and the British Dental Association and the employee tribunals will react.

The BDA can stop him from practicing (kiss good by to £80k per year and 7 years training), the tribunal can fine him and prevent her dismisal (although, who'd want to work there if such a complaint was actioned).

Dental nurses can find other dentists to work for (bit of a skills shortage in the business).

My dad is a retired dentist, he thinks it wrong and suggest that the BDA would not be kind. Who's to say what pictures he has taken, when patients are under general anisetic(sp)??

He could still be a simple, fool and have no real comprehension of whats he has done, this must be addressed initially by your girlfriend.

Find her an upskirt / porn / voyer site, show her the crap posted. It may well make her understand your fears and create the anger necessary for her to deal with the situation!

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I'm sorry to say this guys, but this morning the whole thing (plus the issue of me simply calling her at home last night to see if she was in!) seems to have escalated into a full scale no-holds-barred split up.

She is coming tonight to get her things.

I am a broken man.

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Yikes.

I don't think you have done anything wrong so don't feel bad about it. If somthing similar had happened with my GF then I would be just as livid to be honest.

I am sure she wouldn't be happy with my reaction but would certainly understand where I was coming from. It sounds to me as if this is being used as a reason for problems with the bigger picture.

It is a serious thing that he has done lets not forget that and if she doesn't want to understand why it makes you feel the way you do then maybe she isn't the person for you.

Keep us updated on whats happening and stay calm. The TSN helpline is always open. 169144-ok.gif

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I've just got to one of my sites and I feel ok about things, because I'm busy I think. I assume she's turned her phone off as none of my texts have been delivered.

I'm going to go out tonight with a mate I haven't seen for a long while as he rang me and offered a VIP ticket to a bar in Nottingham.

Thanks for the support CarMad. I'll post later.

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The BDA will help the dentist, my dad must have meant the GDC- General Dental Council.

Here's a link, which takes you to the complaints section and tells how to put the wheels in motion

http://www.gdc-uk.org/General+public/Com...s+procedure.htm

or how to destroy this man's life

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I'd be seriously considering an anonymous tip off to these guys wink.gif

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It feels unlikely boys, but she's coming down tomorrow to collect her things. Maybe that will give us time to sort it out.. but after telling her a few home truths I doubt it. We'll have to see what happens tomorrow.

Right now I feel ok, numb, if you like.

I know the next two weeks will be hard if we stay apart as it sets in and I really begin to miss her. I've put so much into this relationship..and here are the fruits. It hardly seems worth it to keep getting hurt does it.

I think I need to be single for a while, if we don't get back together. Get my head around a few things, get fit, and generally shape up, including mentally.

I am seriously considering an anonymous tip off though - thanks for the info MBM.

After to speaking to my uncle about this at length, he informs me that any work outing, be it official or not, can be classed as "Work time" and the same rules apply regarding sexual harrassment etc.

Although Heidi wouldn't be a petitioner (in the beginning, perhaps with a word or two from people in the right places she might realise really what we're dealing with here) the behaviour displayed is immoral, disgusting and possibly actually illegal.

God knows what this guy is capable of.

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have you tried to talk to her ? can she not see how you feel , woudl she like somenoe coming on to you and perving over you ?

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I haven't managed to talk to her really when she's in the frame of mind to listen..perhaps tomorrow could be that time.

Anyway, I'm ugly so it's not very likely Flush.gif

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if she loves you and its ment to be she will understand, thing is at work some people dont treat it like work, so they think its like there friennds, if one of her gf's had been messing around wtih a camera it would be ok , but the fact it was a bloke, and her boss.... thats wrong , she must be able to see that ,

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have you tried to talk to her ? can she not see how you feel , woudl she like somenoe coming on to you and perving over you ?

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I haven't managed to talk to her really when she's in the frame of mind to listen..perhaps tomorrow could be that time.

Anyway, I'm ugly so it's not very likely Flush.gif

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Good luck mate. Don't take any crap though. 169144-ok.gif

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I love the idea Snail.. but unfortunately I'm as English as they come!

She's tried to get out of coming today..once again last night she was out getting pissed (the third time this week, when she claims to have no money) and she was texting me all night. She ended up wanting me to go and pick her up, I got talked into going by one of my mates that I was with and 20 minutes after I set off she announced that she was too tired and that she'd see me today. Then this morning she's text saying she can't be arsed to drive today. I've told her after messing me around last night and ruining my night out the least she can do is get her arse down here, and I think I'm damn right 169144-ok.gif

Before anyone else picks up on the "her going out and getting pissed" thing..we have had problems about this before, for two reasons.

One, is that she complains she never really has any money. Then she'll suggest we go out for dinner. Guess who's wallet that comes out of? I'm quite a generous fellow but after 6 months of this it's getting quite tedious, and I'm not as wealthy as I was a year ago. So, she has no money, and I buy the meals, drinks, take-aways, rent the dvds, whatever it is. And she has magically found enough money to go out, even though she claims she doesn't have enough petrol money to even get down here.

Two, is that most of the people she spends time with seem to have some sort of unhealthy interest in her. *****, for instance, takes her (and friends) out and takes pictures up their skirts. Mark (her 'best' male friend) has to confess his undying love for her every two months. Micker (as he seems to be called) is some jumped up married thirty-something who goes down the gym far too often (loves himself a bit) and not so long ago he asked Heidi if she'd sleep with him behind his wife's back. Matt (barman at the leisure complex where she drinks) is her ex boyfriend, who seems to have a major problem with me.

I don't have a problem with her going out..and I usually keep quiet about things, but it is a spot annoying when Micker keeps asking her to sleep with him, and openly flirts with her even infront of me, and Mark keeps confessing his love.

Then, there's a couple of her girly friends who every weekend go to some house party, Heidi follows, gets wrecked, typically has someone heavily coming onto her, she gets scared (seriously this has happened more than 5 times) and then who's left to pick up the pieces? Me. When she lives 50 miles away that's not easy.

It winds me up just talking about this, because a lot of the time she's really sensible and isn't the teenage go-out-and-get-wasted type. I mean we all like a drink, but within the limits of being able to walk.

All this is giving me a bit of a reality check, and my head says drop it and I'm better off out..but unfortunately I'm as soft as dung.gif and I just melt when I see her/talk to her.

Grrr!

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All this is giving me a bit of a reality check, and my head says drop it and I'm better off out..but unfortunately I'm as soft as and I just melt when I see her/talk to her.

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Yes.

May advice would be stay away mate. 169144-ok.gif

Don't call, don't text, don't anything. If she does some leg work and addresses the issues, fair enough.

If not.... NEXT!!! 169144-ok.gif

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I think that's the way to go mate..I'm going to see what she's like today (she IS driving down) and see if she realises the issues properly. I mean yesterday I gave her the good old "How would you feel if people were taking pictures of my cock?" and she magically came out with "Well, I wouldn't have a problem with it. You can do what you like. Each to their own." Which we all know is a heap of poo, she was just saying it to be annoying a prove some kind of point.

If she talks to me properly, I manage to find out *exactly* what happened on Wednesday..it will swing it either way. We'll just have to see. But she's got some work to so. If she doesn't do it today, then I'm banging the last nail in the coffin and calling it a day.

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Be strong m8. don't let your cock rule your brain! I've gone through the younger skint bird taking the piss. I've now kicked her out (still shagging her though), and I won't spend a penny on her. In fact I'd say our relationship is 10 x better now that there are some ground rules in place. Plus she can't complain about me turning the house into what I like.

Oh and I bet if she found out someone was taking pictures of your cock her answer would be very different. mine always confessed she wasn't jealouse but over xmas she walked into my local and smacked the bird I was talking too.......only problem was it was my brothers new bird, good job he was about to dump her!

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