steve2 Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 [ QUOTE ] Hmm, I had asked in the past but got told where to go... Would seem like blackmail really. I'd prefer it if she was actually up for it, then she'd enjoy it too which one is it Matt as me and the boys might come down one night Things have settled down a bit now, maybe moving on might not be too hard although I'm sure the odd reminder will still make my blood boil. Still, I've found something that takes my mind off it a little... a nice little lap dancing club which I now include as part of the lads pub cruel on a friday night... well, it keeps me happy [/ QUOTE ] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruiser647 Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 [ QUOTE ] Hmm, I had asked in the past but got told where to go... Would seem like blackmail really. I'd prefer it if she was actually up for it, then she'd enjoy it too Things have settled down a bit now, maybe moving on might not be too hard although I'm sure the odd reminder will still make my blood boil. Still, I've found something that takes my mind off it a little... a nice little lap dancing club which I now include as part of the lads pub cruel on a friday night... well, it keeps me happy [/ QUOTE ] Don't push too hard, or you will loose her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattchaps Posted April 17, 2007 Author Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 [ QUOTE ] which one is it Matt as me and the boys might come down one night [/ QUOTE ] Its called The Ashford Club, used to be known as Screwballs, next to Blockbuster. It's nothing special, but some of the girls are nice and it's not too busy so they give you plenty of attention Best bit for me is it's cheap Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davyk31 Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 So what makes the girls so nice Matt and in what way do they give you plenty of attention???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattchaps Posted April 18, 2007 Author Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 [ QUOTE ] So what makes the girls so nice Matt and in what way do they give you plenty of attention???? [/ QUOTE ] To be honest I don't know, I can't usually remember when the morning comes. But, my wallet is always empty so that must mean I had a good night... And, I keep going back for more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 [ QUOTE ] Sorry to hear this Matt, but as much as everyone can give their opinion, its your relationship, and each one is different. As I always say if you are meant to be together no matter what happens you will, through thick and thin. Keep smiling, keep your chin up and all the best - It will all turn out right in the end, what ever course your relationship takes [/ QUOTE ] ....IMO that's the best advice in this whole thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattchaps Posted April 27, 2007 Author Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 Just thought I'd post a little update on the situation. Things are getting back to normal, and this has been a little easier than I expected, and is getting easier still with time. I wasn't sure at first about posting it on here, but I'm so glad I did. All of your comments were welcomed and believe it or not, it has made it easier for me to deal with I still have the odd moment where I think about what happened and I can feel myself getting wound up and frustrated. When this happens I try to concentrate my mind on something else... usually starts with looking at TsN Things should be ok between us, obviously I can't be 100% sure yet, but the signs are looking promising. Thanks to all of you for your support Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruiser647 Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 [ QUOTE ] Just thought I'd post a little update on the situation. Things are getting back to normal, and this has been a little easier than I expected, and is getting easier still with time. I wasn't sure at first about posting it on here, but I'm so glad I did. All of your comments were welcomed and believe it or not, it has made it easier for me to deal with I still have the odd moment where I think about what happened and I can feel myself getting wound up and frustrated. When this happens I try to concentrate my mind on something else... usually starts with looking at TsN Things should be ok between us, obviously I can't be 100% sure yet, but the signs are looking promising. Thanks to all of you for your support [/ QUOTE ] Yay!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r3hep Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 been there, done that..... walk away! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 [ QUOTE ] been there, done that..... walk away! [/ QUOTE ] Yea, but she was never right for you Colin, and although you went through a lot of pain, i hope you came out the other side a happier person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r3hep Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 Totally agree - am a far happier person (well, usually - works is being a big let down) but it takes a very strong person to forgive that level of betrayal and i, although i tried, could not do it. If you (or more rightly he) is giving it a go and things are going well then fair play and long may it continue and if you can get over that trust issue, if you can sit at home and not worry when she goes out with her mates, if you don't feel an overwhelming need to know where she is at all times and with who then you are a far greater, stronger man than I. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 Box of frogs. Mad as. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 Her, not you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 Erm, although Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steve2 Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 [ QUOTE ] been there, done that..... walk away! [/ QUOTE ] As Dave says all situations are different, one persons answer is different to someone else Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danksy Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 Mate i know what you are going through, i thought i could forgive but have been hurt again since by things she has done I fear my patience has about run out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarMad Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 Doh ... you have given it your all though Danksy if she is still twisting a knife in you I feel for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davyk31 Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 So what more did you find out Dansky? And in your case she was unfaithful for a very long period of time which has to be even harder to deal with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danksy Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 all in good time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 If a 'leopard' can't change its spots, there is no point hanging on imo. Remember the good times but move on. Easy for me to say (and to have done as it happens) but I'm probably one of those guys who doesn't actually ever fall in love for longer than a few weeks. I don't understand how anyone can love someone who doesn't love them back....It's a two-way street for me. But, as said above, we are all different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulboy Posted April 28, 2007 Report Share Posted April 28, 2007 [ QUOTE ] Mate i know what you are going through, i thought i could forgive but have been hurt again since by things she has done I fear my patience has about run out [/ QUOTE ] Sorry to hear that Danksy. From what you have said on here, you have given it more than 100% and most blokes would have fired her off by now. Cant believe she is still messing you about. I also get the feeling that you have held quite a bit in 'reserve' since the last incident. I get the feeling if you were to split now, you would be 100% ready emotionally as your brain has been in training for it, so to speak. just my opinion from what you have posted up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted April 28, 2007 Report Share Posted April 28, 2007 I agree with soulboy - You appear to have given the relationship every chance and if you move on you can do so feeling positive and with no regrets. But, of course, every relationship is different and only you know what suits you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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