malagus Posted August 1, 2005 Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 Who I really fancy. not just in a sexual way, but in a really deep, meaningful, loving and caring way. There however are several problems. 1: I dont know if what I feel for her is real, or just a crush. 2: she's 14, and will be for the next 3 months too. 3: I'm not sure if she really likes me, or if she's just really a nice person. 4: She prefers my mates to me (i'm a little too flash for her I think) 5: She lives in eastern Poland. NOrmally, I would have just thought 'not for me then.' but there is something about her I can't get out of my head. she's just totally perfect, and everything I do seems to relate to her in some way. any advice please???? must go and wash car, might take my mind off her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted August 1, 2005 Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 Her being only 14 might be a big problem Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiftyPence Posted August 1, 2005 Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 But bearing in mind Malagus is only of school age too i think I think youre just purposefully making everything you do somehow relate to her. Its all in your head. It could well work, i know of people locally who have somehow managed to pull nice looking polish women and got married but distance is one thing. Youre looking at probably a good decade until she would leave her native country to move in with you or anything of that nature by which time you may have found someone in the UK who you have more in common with etc. Good luck with whatever you choose to do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malagus Posted August 1, 2005 Author Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 for me the poland isssue isn't that big for the future, as my Polish is OK, and I could easily live over there, its just weird, 'cos she's not the prettiest girl there, but I feel for her in a different way, and its kinda chewing me up ATM. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiftyPence Posted August 1, 2005 Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 Well if shes not pretty and youre a guy who finds looks extremely important then youve answered your own question. A bit of foreign never hurt anyone though, and remember she has 2 years until she is legal by UK law. I dont know what Polish law surrounding this is but i know that their idea of contraception is an abortion! They agree to unprotected sex and then have an abortion as the means of control later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza_g Posted August 1, 2005 Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 [ QUOTE ] for me the poland isssue isn't that big for the future, as my Polish is OK, and I could easily live over there, its just weird, 'cos she's not the prettiest girl there, but I feel for her in a different way, and its kinda chewing me up ATM. [/ QUOTE ] Malagus - how old are you ? I haven't got a clue ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malagus Posted August 1, 2005 Author Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 16. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza_g Posted August 1, 2005 Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 [ QUOTE ] 16. [/ QUOTE ] ok, with that being the case and the girl being 14, I'd stay well clear - you'll only end up in the at some point Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malagus Posted August 1, 2005 Author Report Share Posted August 1, 2005 meh. thats what I would normally say, but this seems different. somehow unusual. If it was the hottest person I was after I would go for another girl there. if it was 'You know what' I was after, I would have gone to bed with some of the girls we met in Zakopane. but it isnt, so i'm at a loose end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malagus Posted August 2, 2005 Author Report Share Posted August 2, 2005 any definitive advice at all???? really need some help at this point, as i haven't spoken to her since I told her how I felt, and I would like to know which road to head down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiftyPence Posted August 2, 2005 Report Share Posted August 2, 2005 So you told he you have fallen head over heels for her but she hasnt responded Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malagus Posted August 2, 2005 Author Report Share Posted August 2, 2005 yeah. thats pretty much the scheme of things, though she might be kinda confused, so I'm not sure if I should give her a call today or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saab Posted August 2, 2005 Report Share Posted August 2, 2005 On the face of what has been said so far the whole thing sounds like a recipe for disaster and I would have recommended walking away and basically getting a grip. As you have now told her how you feel you may as well wait and see what she says about the way she feels. If you do decide to go down the route of entering some form of relationship you have to be realistic enough to recognise that the odds are stacked against you there is a very high probability that things won't work out. Generally speaking long distance relationships are difficult to make work and usually require plenty of disposable income, time, patience, understanding and accepting that you aren't going to be able to have sex with your partner as much as you might like (which may or may not be relevant in this case). Feeling a very close connection with someone is a rare and amazing thing. It doesn't necessarily mean that person is the right person to have a relationship with. Friendship in these cases is sometimes the only sensible option and by pushing things on to another level risks sacrificing what you already have, and I speak from bitter experience. I do wish you the best of luck and I hope you end up making the right decision. Jamie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewNiceMrMe Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 [ QUOTE ] Who I really fancy. not just in a sexual way, [/ QUOTE ] Is that possible? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewNiceMrMe Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 [ QUOTE ] 2: she's 14, and will be for the next 3 months too. [/ QUOTE ] FFS! She's 14!!!! That's six months older than one of our daughters!!!! Jesus, I have to stop reading threads like this. You said you fancy her but 'not JUST in a sexual way'. She's 14 man. That's a child malagus. Jail. That's a dark cold place with bars. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mort Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 when I was 16..... if there was grass on the pitch..... its game on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beez Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 Me too. Shaggin' in the mud doesn't do anyone any favours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza_g Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] 2: she's 14, and will be for the next 3 months too. [/ QUOTE ] FFS! She's 14!!!! That's six months older than one of our daughters!!!! Jesus, I have to stop reading threads like this. You said you fancy her but 'not JUST in a sexual way'. She's 14 man. That's a child malagus. Jail. That's a dark cold place with bars. [/ QUOTE ] I don't think there was any suggestion that Malagus was actually doing anything dodgy ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewNiceMrMe Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 True, maybe I'm forgetting what it was like to be 16. I was probably worse come to think of it..... No offence intended Malagus. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beez Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 Just remember not to introduce him to your daughter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza_g Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 [ QUOTE ] True, maybe I'm forgetting what it was like to be 16. [/ QUOTE ] it was quite some time ago wasn't it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewNiceMrMe Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 Aye, I've lived twice as long as Malagus and then some....worrying! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rustynuts Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 1: I dont know if what I feel for her is real, or just a crush.<font color="red"> Malagus, you're 16. Get a grip of yourself! </font> 2: she's 14, and will be for the next 3 months too.<font color="red"> Malagus, she's 14. Get a grip of yourself! </font> 3: I'm not sure if she really likes me, or if she's just really a nice person.<font color="red">You're not sure? I bet she's not sure either. </font> 4: She prefers my mates to me (i'm a little too flash for her I think)<font color="red"> She prefers someone else to you? </font> 5: She lives in eastern Poland. <font color="red"> How many miles apart? I'm just popping out to see the girlfriend, back in a few days. </font> It'll never work! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beez Posted August 3, 2005 Report Share Posted August 3, 2005 Amen! Very well put. And I think when he said 'I'm a little too flash for her I think' was incredibly big headed, and that's probably the reason she prefers his mates P.S. Rusty, your post just closed the 500,000 posts down to 1000 left Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza_g Posted August 4, 2005 Report Share Posted August 4, 2005 [ QUOTE ] And I think when he said 'I'm a little too flash for her I think' was incredibly big headed [/ QUOTE ] I missed that comment from Malagus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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