Help Daughter Wetting herself

[danksy]

My daughter who is 4 and a half has suddenly just started peeing her self

She hasn't had a problem in bed as such, but just over the last week or so she has started to not either not want to, or not be able to get to the toilet in time

I haven't asked her about it, for fear of making the problem worse, but i am wondering the best way of trying to tackle it

Any ideas folks?

There seems no pattern to her doing it.

First occasion she was sat on her aunts lap, having a book read to her.

Second occasion just as she was on the way out of the door, she said she had wet trousers

How do I help the poor little bugger

[Gaunty]

Has she just started school or is she worried about something? Don't make a big issue of it when it happens and give her lots of love and support. It's probably just a phase but if it continues and you think it might be a medical problem go and see your doctor.

[Mac]

Danks, if it's any consolation my daghter started doing the same thing for a couple of weeks when she was older than that Not much, mid fives I think

Anyway, it didn't last long. She used to get furiously embarrassed about it so don't make a fuss mate.

Give it a week or so and if it persists go see the GP if you think it may be medical.

[JamesB]

Well, the first thing is to be sympathetic, which it very much sounds like you are doing.

It is very unlikely to be anything medical but, if it persists, it might be worth taking her to be checked up just in case it is something that requires treatment.

Is there any definable pattern? If it always occurs at a particular time or in a particular situation, then you can try to forestall it by taking her to the toilet beforehand. Any other lifestyle changes e.g. has she started drinking caffeine-containing drinks or anything?

Is she unhappy about something? Sometimes just asking them the question, even at four and a half, will provide an answer. Otherwise, see if there are any situations at school/nursery or with friends that might be troubling her.

A lot of times you will never find the reason and it will just settle on its own with love and reassurance.

Edited to add: Well, at least the advice is consistent

[drpellypo]

Our little one started doing this. One day he did it when he was playing playstation and I asked him why he did it. He said he just didn't want to go to the toilet because he was playing his game, so we took the game off him. He's never done it since. In his case it seemed to be pure laziness though, so that approach worked. He wasn't embarrassed a bit - as had he, we would have no doubt taken a more sympathetic approach!

Deffo talk to her though. There might be a really weird reason that's easily sorted.

[Calm Chris]

Here's one, stop her drinking for a few hours before bed time. If she is thirsty, have some orange juice (the nice fresh stuff) in ice cube boxes, which she can suck on and hence slate her thirst.

If her bladder isn't full, she won't want to wee.

[danksy]

Thanks guys

Asked her if anything was upsetting her, she just said I don't like working at school

She tells me she just forgot to go to the toilet