Calm Chris Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 No money worries, not issues with 25 hour working week, no wife or kid problems, no sex issues. Have health, moderate wealth and happy family. So why have I lost my ambition 47 years old and no desire to work harder and own expensive money loosing toys. Have travelled extensively (across all continents). House is fine and due to London prices I have no desire to upgrade, besides I'll be throwing the oldest out in 5 years. So why have I no ambition, I can't have done all I want to do How do you get ambition back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 Could it be a mild form of depression? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarMad Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 Tired of what you do now maybe and need to trying something different to challenge you maybe ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 Yes, possibly the time to re-acess and set yourself new goals? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesB Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 I guess it depends on what you define as ambition. I have a much greater ambition for happiness than I do for money or career success. If I was in your situation, I'd be off fishing, to the theatre, exploring the UK or abroad etc - bugger ambition. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 [ QUOTE ] I guess it depends on what you define as ambition. I have a much greater ambition for happiness than I do for money or career success. [/ QUOTE ] Funny, but that's exactly me at the moment. Don't know if it's an age thing, but i've had my RS6, done the power boat thing etc etc.. and now i just enjoy my family, enjoy seeing them enjoy themselves and just thrive on that. We did the Camel trail the other day as a family.. it's a 4 or 5 mile bike ride along an old railway track, from Wadebridge to Padstow, with the wife and kids and we had a great day.. who says you need money to enjoy yourselves. I would also say that it's very easy to get caught up in the money thing. You know, that money = happiness. It doesn't.. if you chase it too hard, life becomes a battle, and you start to forget the important things in life.. like the wife and kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brabus Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 Did someone mention RS6? Took mine for a wash today, bloody filthy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted April 17, 2007 Report Share Posted April 17, 2007 [ QUOTE ] I guess it depends on what you define as ambition. I have a much greater ambition for happiness than I do for money or career success. [/ QUOTE ] But, on the other hand do we say that because we've achieved what we set out to achieve? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brabus Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 Filthy I tells ya! Oh sorry, chri5...carry on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calm Chris Posted April 18, 2007 Author Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 The life I have is good, I'm a happy bunny. No depression here. I'm happy with the work I have, I choose what I do and don't do and when I do or don't do it. Wife is still my best friend, amazing after 25 years together. Even my kids like me. Have a decent social life and some long standing , solid friendships. Finance, well no borrowings and some decent investments tucked away. Is ambition matched to material ownership? What ambitions should I have, if the normal one's have been achieved. Cars- done enough of those to have experienced the good and bad facets of ownership. Travel- Been to 120+ Countries Children- Have 2 x beauties Home- Have all I ever need and it's mine, not a finance houses Heart- I love and am loved Head- Studying for further qualifications without struggling too much, so keeping on the personal improvement regime Body- Regular exercise, 50 miles of bike riding a week. Mild weights, skipping and punch bag work outs. So everything I can think about is covered at the bases. Do we need to have ambition as a personal drive motivator, or should I just accept that I'm a very lucky person to have no need for ambition. It seems to me that ambition in the modern era is necessary only to achieve personal goals regarding money, home, heart, lifestyle etc. James might be right- maybe I need to think of catching a large fish or take on a new hobby. Could I have lost my ambition due to having seen the light regarding consumerism and the reality that I really don't need the latest TV, Hi Fi, fashion statement, bigger house, depreciating car etc..... I think the way forward might be to stop concerning myself with my life and think about the kids futures. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drpellypo Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 Is ambition such an essential thing though? I mean, perhaps what you are feeling is contentment? It could be your minds way of saying that you have everything you need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewNiceMrMe Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 You support Arsenal. Stop. Problem solved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garcon magnifique Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 Chri5, The way I read it, I really wouldn't see this 'lack of ambition' as a negative thing. You seem to have transferred all your ambition into the less material things in life - love, family happiness. Your ambition is now for your kids. That is all good, I reckon. Either that or what MrMe said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mort Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 A bit of mid life crisis going on perhaps. When you are younger you are personally enriched by fulfilling your potential and achieving the goals you believe to be important in life. When you attain those goals you lose the targets that have driven you so far and sometimes (not always) fail to replace them with equally meaningful goals. Life seems to stall somewhat... you look out and up from the position you have attained and consider is it worth the effort to push for the next level (what ever that is). There comes a point where material goods (cars, houses, toys etc) mean less and less (to some people)... relationships, good health and happiness are more important.. how we achieve that should become the new ambition. I find myself in this phase of life. It has taken me to the other side of the world in the past year... I must say I struggle to make this transition towards a more meaningful non material lifestyle especially as I haven't yet achieved the material lifestyle I want for myself and family... There are moments of doubt and I sometimes wonder what the hell I have done but I know for sure I care less and less about the things I thought important in the past and care more and more about what happiness means. I am sure this trend will take me in the right direction... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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