Tomk Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 found out that someone i know - not great mate has been cheating on his GF ( i know both of them from uni and we sort of all bump in to each other now and then) just happened he cheated on his GF with i girl i have now come across by accident and met ! she told me all about what happened with them, before i put 2+2 together and realised it was this person i know ! he had been lying to both of them, and worse is engaged to his GF ! this went on for 3 months before they split up, i talked to a mate to try and work out what to do, after all its all over and he is no longer seeing this girl, but there is no saying he is not meeting other women now.... anyways, my mate ended up telling his GF so its all out in the open now , really worried ive split them up, but feel you cant get married to someone when you dont know what they have been doing, what if he is still doing it , and does it while they are married? think its best she has the option before its too late, he has always been a little strange and now i know why! do you think ive done the right thing ? i did not tell her directly , but started the chain of events that led to them finding out... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparky Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 [ QUOTE ] but feel you cant get married to someone when you dont know what they have been doing [/ QUOTE ] Agreed. Once a cheat, always a cheat. You've done the right thing - any as you say, you did it indirectly so they have come to the conclusions themselves. Relax. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Posted February 5, 2005 Report Share Posted February 5, 2005 Tom, he did the cheating, and he told his girlfriend, not you. This is squarely on his shoulders, not yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loddrik Posted February 5, 2005 Report Share Posted February 5, 2005 My loyalties would be with my mate, rightly or wrongly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Posted February 5, 2005 Report Share Posted February 5, 2005 Yeah, but all he's done is talked to his mate, his mate has done the rest... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomk Posted February 5, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 5, 2005 to be honest i do know this guy, but not seen him for ages, and he has not really been a friend to me , it must be better for her to find out now , rather then when they are married with kids etc, what if he still does it cos he thinks he can get away with it ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M3Will Posted February 7, 2005 Report Share Posted February 7, 2005 [ QUOTE ] i talked to a mate to try and work out what to do [/ QUOTE ] er why? what business is it of yours? carry on concerning yourself with other peoples lives and things just might end up getting nasty. will Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ian_m Posted February 8, 2005 Report Share Posted February 8, 2005 *things will get nasty" Yeah thanks Trisha! Tom I think you did the right thing, as you said, you didnt tell her directly anyway. Anyone who disagrees, wouldnt you want your mate to tell you if your partner is cheating??? I know I would! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomk Posted February 8, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 8, 2005 well it was really 'trisha' as you say... i was in a local chat room for the area, got talking to this girl and she was saying her BF had split up wtih her, she told me all about it , then it clicked who he was... i went to uni with him and i know full well that he had lived with his gf for 3 years, and they are getting married this year! so to hear all this made my mind boggle! very trisha! she is a nurse and always works nights, so find he has been meeting women off the net telling them he is single ! i know the guy - he is no mate, if he was maybee things would be different, but i dont know any of my mates that would keep something like thsi from me , or go out looking for other women while living with there GF's i think its going to get nasty cos he has denied it , but he cant cos she has seen his profile on the net and everything too ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belchy Posted February 11, 2005 Report Share Posted February 11, 2005 This may sound a bit "mincy", but I have always thought that your partner should also be your best friend. With this in mind, if someone cheats on their partner/best friend .... they have no loyalties and so would sh*t on anyone. Therefore they deserver all they get and IMHO cant be trusted Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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