Riz Posted November 27, 2004 Report Share Posted November 27, 2004 Just to let you all know that im having family issues at the moment, nothing im not used to but it does have a impact on ones brain. Will be online as per usual but may have mood swings. Need to get a place of my own soon.... Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mo-S3 Posted November 27, 2004 Report Share Posted November 27, 2004 Yaar, dont Fikarr, thats what our mums are here for- to keep us on the straight and narrow! However bad things maybe at home remember they could always be worse and at the end of the day they only want whats best for you. Dont be disrespectful coz you will only makes things worse Take it easy man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted November 27, 2004 Author Report Share Posted November 27, 2004 Ermmmm well its abit difficult as my parents have separate rooms, my dad doesnt care and his family hate my mum. Shes always around their homes fighting and causing agro.... then comes home and gives us row row row row. Its been a on going situation for about ermmm 10 years...... doctors, police and social workers have all been involved and in my eyes have failed. Afterall if my dad doesnt care what can one do? Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
felixthecat1 Posted November 27, 2004 Report Share Posted November 27, 2004 My heart goes out to you mate. I moved back in with my mother once many years ago and had the worst year of my life. Boy did it inspire me to save hard for my first flat in super quick time though. Any insults or bad moods will be taken on the chin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hopsta Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 Riz, one piece of advice... move out. Get a flat or something of your own, then you can pick and choose when you go home and are ready to face the onslaught flack. I moved out pretty late in life at 27 and its something that I've never regreted at all. Let us know when you have the house warming Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted November 28, 2004 Author Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 [ QUOTE ] Riz, one piece of advice... move out. Get a flat or something of your own, then you can pick and choose when you go home and are ready to face the onslaught flack. I moved out pretty late in life at 27 and its something that I've never regreted at all. Let us know when you have the house warming [/ QUOTE ] I need to move out oneday..... meanwhile the police have been around tonight and took her. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
felixthecat1 Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 Oh boy that's heavy stuff. keep you pecker up mate. Everything will work itself out in the end, trust me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steve2 Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 keep calm and take care Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted November 28, 2004 Author Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 I know this may sound cruel or sad but im used to it all..... i just want my own life..... feel sorry for dad and mum yeah but i cant mend whats happend. She`ll be around the shops tomorrow causing a scence! She once came to my work place in a cop car to get my house keys Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delibird Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 Riz I know exactly how you feel, my mother has been a constant embarrassment to me for the last 20 years. She is an uncontrolable alcoholic who is aggresive, suffers mood swings and is totally irational. The best thing I ever did was move out when i was 19. It sounds crazy, but despite loving her as my mum, I have grown indifferent to her behaviour to the point of not caring. if you ever need to chat or let off steam, I am always handy for advice. And remember don't let the situation get to you, I know it's hard, but it will help in the long run. Oh yeah and about the police thing, my mum once rang the police to report that I had stoplen my dads car, when I was actually driving him around that day, ended up nearly getting arrested Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted November 28, 2004 Author Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 Thank you for your post, means alot. My minds in overdrive at the moment and strangely enough talking about it and being online keeps my mind running.... Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza_g Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 Mate - sorry to hear you're going through this - sounds like time to seriously start looking for a place of your own, once you take the plunge, you won't regret it - remember to keep your head up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delibird Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 [ QUOTE ] Thank you for your post, means alot. My minds in overdrive at the moment and strangely enough talking about it and being online keeps my mind running.... Riz [/ QUOTE ] It helps to talk about it otherwise you just end up bottling it all up, which is what I did, and it really isn't good. the thing I always find difficult is that many people think that I am being harsh and unfeeling about the situation, where in fact it really hurts inside. As I said if you ever need a shoulder just let me know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted November 28, 2004 Author Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 This is how i feel... afterall she is my mum but what can one do? I`ve always been a down to earth open guy and i prefer to be open about everything.... and your right it does help. Its sometimes hard for people to understand how you feel inside... i dont mind as everybody has their own opinions. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesB Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 I guess it doesn't really matter if people understand exactly how you feel, as no-one is exactly in your shoes. The important thing is that they are on your side and support you. You've certainly always been open and honest on this site and I reckon you'll find a lot of people concerned for you here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mo-S3 Posted November 28, 2004 Report Share Posted November 28, 2004 Obviously its a very situation in your home with all that going on. You know better than anyone whos in the right and whos in the wrong. Hang in their mate and dont let it get to you too much, I know its hard but keep your chin up and do what you think is right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hopsta Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 Chin up Riz me ol'fella, things do sound rough for you at the moment. Hopefully things are now going in the right direction for your mum, you and the rest of the family. Take it easy mate, the world of TSN is here to give you some normality and advice. Graham Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johneroberts Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 Whoa Riz mate.. keep your head focused on your own issues, keep yourself busy, and GET OUT ASAP! If you need a chat, get me on MSN. Cheers jr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilT Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 Riz mate, you know where I am. If you need anything, just give me a shout. You got my number... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A8_Tony Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 Riz, I don't know you personally, but you've always come across as a 'bloody nice chap'. I feel for you and your pain, indeed I too have suffered some major embarrassment caused by my mother, which has made me almost disown her a couple of times. Getting out of there would be a good thing to do, however, have you thought about getting together with a couple of mates and doing it?? That way you get your own place, with the benefit of it not costing you an arm and a leg. Might be worth thinking about. Anyway, I hope it all works out for you soon fella, and as has already been stated here, the boys (& girls) of TSN are here for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted November 29, 2004 Author Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 Thank you so much for your very heart felt kind words.... hugs. I had a call from my old work place today and went to see my ex boss. I might be able to get my old job back as a Epos Engineer.... this will at least give my options to think about. Also this hasnt ruled out selling the R32 but i can always get another car in the future...... company van/car might be on offer also. The way ive always seen it, is that theres always some people in the world who are alot worse off than me etc... im lucky that ive had some nice cars... lived life at a steady pace and met so many nice people on the way.... Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulboy Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 Agree with everyone else - its time to move on Riz. You really dont need all that in your life. Sometimes these things are for the best in the long run. My Dad kicked me out the house when I was 23 and it was tough for a while. But in retrospect, it was probably the best thing he could have done for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delibird Posted December 1, 2004 Report Share Posted December 1, 2004 Riz you sound like you have a good sensible head on your shoulders. And that idea about moving in with friends is a really good one. I'd consider it if I were you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
essexr32 Posted December 8, 2004 Report Share Posted December 8, 2004 Riz you've always sounded sensible just trust yourself and don't worry, because worrying's just gonna distract you from your situation. Give it a bit of time! I just moved home at it came be unnerving at times, but try and deal with it the best you can. When you were saying that you might try and get your old job back as an EPOS engineer. Well i know they are recruiting EPOS people in Essex and you remember the thread on Essex birds! PM me for there details. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peterb Posted December 9, 2004 Report Share Posted December 9, 2004 [ QUOTE ] ... remember the thread on Essex birds! PM me for there details. [/ QUOTE ] Not going to post their numbers on the forum, then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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