simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 .... i'll be a married man! Just sat here at my PC working and just opened my MP3 folder and put on a song that we're having as our first dance song and now i'm absolutely cacking myself! not worried about being married. I'm not one of these 'i can't sha6 another woman other than my wife' people - that really doesnt bother me - i'm so happy to be marrying the person that i'm marrying and i'm sure we're gonna be happy for a long long time. Just so nervous!! Is this normal??! Assume it is! Also, feel like i may cry at the church - this is normal too yeah? Any pharmacists on here who can tell me of something that i can take to calm myself down - or otherwise give me a number for a local weed dealer?!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 Never actually said that at the moment i'm NOT A MARRIED MAN! Wedding is next Saturday at 1pm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
syeldham Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] I'm not one of these 'i can't sha6 another woman other than my wife' people [/ QUOTE ] Are you saying that you will cheat on your wife? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] I'm not one of these 'i can't sha6 another woman other than my wife' people [/ QUOTE ] Are you saying that you will cheat on your wife? [/ QUOTE ] NO!! Course not!! I was just saying that i have a friend who has been with his girlfriend 4 years and occassionaly plays away. Then they break up for a few weeks, he plays (away) every night, then they get back together. I keep asking him when he's gonna propose and he says he's not because he couldn't live with just being able to shag one woman - needs a few! He's such a slag really. He's not the only person i know like that too. I was just saying i'm not one of them guys! My worry is my wedding nerves now!! ing myself!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
syeldham Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 Fair enough! You'll be fine - just remember that it is only a slight change if you are already in a relationship. All it is is a ceremony to show each other and the world that you are committed to each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeilB Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 Try some rescue remedy, dunno if it works though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 Cheers guys. That Rescue stuff - my Mum said she'd got me some of that or something. Wasn't sure what she was going on about. What's it supposed to do?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdog Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] i'm so happy to be marrying the person that i'm marrying and i'm sure we're gonna be happy for a long long time. [/ QUOTE ] Having read this bit, I would say that you won't need any uppers, downers or any of that cr@p. You are obviously marrying for the right reason, that being that you want to be together, completely. I remember saying that I would never get married, mainly due to my parents marriage being less than ideal. Had a few close shaves along the way. Met my wife a few years ago and didn't even think about getting married and then one day, don't know why, it just seemed the right thing to do, so we did and I haven't looked back since My best mate is getting married next year and he took his time as well until the right one came along. He said the same as me, hung on until it felt right. All the best to you both for the future Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mulkbear Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 This all way calms my nerves Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeilB Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] What's it supposed to do?? [/ QUOTE ] http://www.bachflower.com/rescue_remedy.htm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] All the best to you both for the future [/ QUOTE ] Cheers mate!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] What's it supposed to do?? [/ QUOTE ] http://www.bachflower.com/rescue_remedy.htm [/ QUOTE ] Might have to get some weed!! Have you read this website: "It has also been used successfully with children to stop a tantrum, before a speech or job interview. Rescue Remedy helps us relax, get focused and get the needed calmness." How many children do you know who have job interviews - let alone have tantrums beforehand!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] This all way calms my nerves [/ QUOTE ] I can't! Apparently!! My Dad mentioned booking me a fast car for the day. Not sure what as it's all hush hush - watch this space!! Therefore, i'm not allowed to drink until after church - which is a worrying! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 You'll be fine on the day mate I'm sure. And look on the bright side, you'll hardly ever have to have sex again!! Oh wait, it's women who you're supposed to reassure that way... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] You'll be fine on the day mate I'm sure. And look on the bright side, you'll hardly ever have to have sex again!! Oh wait, it's women who you're supposed to reassure that way... [/ QUOTE ] Doh!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeilB Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 Yup that rescue remedy site may as well say "Developed from the tears of squirrels, this 100% organic product will soothe you into a deep and calm hippy like state." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonb Posted October 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 [ QUOTE ] Yup that rescue remedy site may as well say "Developed from the tears of squirrels, this 100% organic product will soothe you into a deep and calm hippy like state." [/ QUOTE ] Bugger!! I need something strong!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrzed Posted October 30, 2005 Report Share Posted October 30, 2005 Congratulations Nervousness comes with the territory. If it's the ceremony you're worried about, you spend most of the time with your back to the audience anyway. It's just the walking in and out bit, but everyone should be so happy for you anyway, you shouldn't feel so nervous at the time. If it's the reception, then Mulkbear's on to it. I was made to drink so much at mine I was almost having trouble keeping a straight face Enjoy the day. It will be a once in a lifetime experience Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pingpongpo Posted October 30, 2005 Report Share Posted October 30, 2005 Got married this July, I was fine in the church but got to the receptino and couldn't eat a thing. By the time speeches came around I'd had about 7 pints and nothing to eat all day. A little bit of slurring occured but all good nonetheless!!! At the end of the day, you could crimp a Mr.Whippy off on the church floor and people would smile because it's yours and your wife's special day and no-one else matters. Have fun!! Can't beat a good wedding atomspehere!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RossG Posted October 30, 2005 Report Share Posted October 30, 2005 [ QUOTE ] Just so nervous!! Is this normal??! Assume it is! Also, feel like i may cry at the church - this is normal too yeah? [/ QUOTE ] Absolutelty its normal!! I got married back in May and I was gobsmaked at how nervous I was - particuarly on the day. When my best man and I got to the church and met the Ushers, I just about went to pieces, and I tend not to be a nervous person. It's just such an enormous emotion - standing in a Church about to make a lifetime commitment - surrounded by loads of people that love you - I think it really just is a form of pure, undisitlled happyness When Mrs RossG walked down the aisle, I looked at her and had to look away - otherwise that would have been it - the couple of tears that did manage to escape would have been hysterics!! Wasn't nervous about my speech - but I did nearly start the waterworks again during it - I'm sucha big girl Ultimately, everyone who was there knows that I am an emotional guy - so they weren't at all surprised by my nerves, and the odd tear It's an awesome day - make sure you enjoy it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avus_Bub Posted October 30, 2005 Report Share Posted October 30, 2005 All the best to you Simon - I'd second pretty much what everyone has said. I was one of the 'I'll NEVER marry lot' but one day............... And now I'm a happily married man Just a couple of tips- 1] Don't get Sh**faced on the day - Just take it all in. I promise it WILL fly by and you will want to do it all over again. 2] Relax! That's why you chose your best man .......... BUB Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmj Posted November 2, 2005 Report Share Posted November 2, 2005 They say the first times always the worst Just kidding! I was nervous on the lead up to mine, but on the day was quite calm, but it was a low key affair. I think I was more nervous as best man for my mates recent wedding! All the bells t1ts and whistles! But was relieved when my speech went down well! (lots of prep and rehearsal) But I hate being centre of attention Anyhoos good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MOSE Posted November 2, 2005 Report Share Posted November 2, 2005 Simon, Firstly congrats to you and the missus. I was nervous the first time round, but nothing that a bottle of Calms and a box of Imodium tablets couldnt deal with. I think I was nervous about having all my family around me for the first time in ages. But the day flew by and was over and done with so quickly, so was a piece of cake really. Second time round was easy, we never invited anyone. Have a great day bud Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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