Riz Posted December 14, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 [ QUOTE ] Riz - how old are you mate? You sound like you might be mid-twenties? If so, I'd say that you're taking this a bit seriously. From reading the post it seems you are quite shy and lacking some confidence. Maybe you should try to sort that out before a-woo-ing the ladies. It's going to be difficult to have a mearningful relationship / get some conquests under your belt until you're happy with yourself. Just some friendly advice from a total stranger anyway. Maybe you could get down to the gym? [/ QUOTE ]Yep was thinking about that, then found out she goes to that gym Nope I honestly value peoples opinions on here, some arent to my liking but I do take them onboard and think about them, im 26 and yes I trying to build my self-confidence up and getting out of the who shy thing...... its abit difficult. I feel why I am this way is due to my rocky past with women...... but im partly to blame as I a nice fella too open/trusting with people in general. Honestly I dont think this is going anywhere with Holly but atleast I made the effort, which some of the lads though was quite brave of me after I had the initial pust. Hey I didnt need to go out with my females friends, it was a fab night and I got to meet lots of new people at the party, including some main directory types, I didnt know at the time though... hope I didnt come across as too nice otherwise I wont get a payrise, heard they are quite ruthless these bosses Whatever I do, I must do it fast... as the whole company knows now that Ive got a thing for her.... and other guys are going to get in there first... heartless animals eh.... dog eat dog world. Im off out again on the 21st with the lads... quite looking forward to it Im trying my best not to get my hopes up too high... Cheers folks. Wooohoooooo Right time to dash over to my parents to wash the Mini. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 [ QUOTE ] If you're not careful before too long she'll think of you as "the funny guy from IT - he's so sweet" - note the use of word "sweet" - you do not want that to happen. [/ QUOTE ] ....I woke up this morning to find this in my messages from someone I met yesterday. Well, being called "sweet" isn't always bad! The best relationships, assuming you want them to last, grow from friendship imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saab Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 Being called sweet and being sent email hugs is very nice, but these are something a friend does. I do agree of course that friendship does sometimes lead to a relationship. However if you arrived at work tomorrow morning to see a new receptionist who you really fancied and who you wanted to take out for a date, the way to do that is not to make friends with her and hope that that friendship becomes something more. If she ever finds out that you became friends with her with the intention of getting hold of her then she will feel betrayed, or even worse if she does feel something for you she might hold back in case she damages the friendship. Best thing to do is be completely up front and go up and talk to her and when you walk away she should be left in no doubt what your intentions are. If she is up for it then it should be obvious and things can progress from there. If not, it's her loss, just move swiftly on. Anyway Riz I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out. However she did suggest lunch which might be a glimmer of hope - although I would suggest a drink after work might be a better option. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 Well, we're all different. I've never ever made my intentions clear in the way you suggest, saab - Mostly because I never have any - I just go with the flow. I don't want an intimate relationship with a girl without any friendship as well, so I fail to see how she would feel betrayed. Most ladies I've known want friendship first anyway. Why be on a mission to primarily get your leg over? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 14, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 Well she pretty much knows I like her and that I would like to get to know her better.... going to leave it at that, perhaps ring her tomorrow or monday and arrange a time when we can both have lunch and chat. Not going to be too keen. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chav Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 Agree with Saab - if you want to go out with someone - ask them out on a date ... Don't lie to them with the "let's be friends" rubbish. A relationship is friendship + attraction. You don't know someone when you first meet them, so the attraction comes first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 14, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 [ QUOTE ] Agree with Saab - if you want to go out with someone - ask them out on a date ... Don't lie to them with the "let's be friends" rubbish. A relationship is friendship + attraction. You don't know someone when you first meet them, so the attraction comes first. [/ QUOTE ] Yes im not going to play games, going to tell her straight that ive liked her for a while and that I would like to get to know her. If she says no, then I will just get over it.... Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparky Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 [ QUOTE ] Not going to be too keen. [/ QUOTE ] You say that all the time. That's your problem too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 [ QUOTE ] ... Don't lie to them with the "let's be friends" rubbish. A relationship is friendship + attraction. You don't know someone when you first meet them, so the attraction comes first. [/ QUOTE ] ....NOT what I said. I'd never advise anyone actually saying "Let's be friends" unless it was a way of letting someone down gently who you knew fancied you but you didn't fancy them. 'Let's be friends and see how it goes' is an attitude which doesn't have to be spoken. I agree - The attraction comes first but it isn't always only physical attraction - It's the whole package - At least, that's how it is for me. You're not totally ruled by your cock, are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 15, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 Id like to think that im not totally ruled by my cock. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dukeboy749r Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 By this stage, I would be surprised if you weren't...! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 15, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 [ QUOTE ] By this stage, I would be surprised if you weren't...! [/ QUOTE ]Well it seems that being cock driven is the norm these days, dont get me wrong, if I find a lady attractive I do think with my cock, this alot of men do, but I keep focused, afterall thinking with your cock doesnt always get you laid. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 ....Agreed. You can get into an awful lot of trouble if you let Wicked Willy dictate everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 15, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 [ QUOTE ] ....Agreed. You can get into an awful lot of trouble if you let Wicked Willy dictate everything. [/ QUOTE ]Well ive learnt from it in the past..... and besides sex isnt everything. If im honest if I just have abit of fun with a lady, both parties happy to ofcourse, I find it hard to not bring emotions into the whole picture..... Does that make sense? Basically im good a love making, but no good at just sex.... completely confuses the hell out of me. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hopsta Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 Don't forget your wellies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 15, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 [ QUOTE ] Don't forget your wellies [/ QUOTE ]Only if is going to get real.......real..... wet. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 15, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 Right calling her in the next 30 mines to arrange a time to meet her on lunch..... wish me luck..... think im going to need it. Im shitting it tbh. Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riz Posted December 15, 2006 Author Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 Done..... right well its safe to say shes not intrested.... phew and wonderful end to the thread..... Riz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris_B Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 Ah, bad luck Riz. Right, so your way isn't working out; time for a radical change. Get yourself a long weekend in Prague, and follow my expert drinking advice in the Red Wine thread, and you're set. Hint: Do your main drinking in Goldfingers, it will build your confidence up. Or, join somebody on the Gumball/Cannonball/Scumball and do some proper drinking, and some proper schmoozing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lottiefox Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 [ QUOTE ] Done..... right well its safe to say shes not intrested.... phew and wonderful end to the thread..... Riz [/ QUOTE ] Well, at least you know. Onwards and upwards Riz, it will come along when you're not looking!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrew Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 Chris: Goldfingers!! The very place I was offered a "woman in a suitcase" - I declined. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 A what now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Done..... right well its safe to say shes not intrested.... phew and wonderful end to the thread..... Riz [/ QUOTE ] Well, at least you know. Onwards and upwards Riz, it will come along when you're not looking!! [/ QUOTE ] ....Exactly !! Stop looking so hard and having such set expectations and something might just happen. Be your bright and breezy self and let them come to you. My advice is NOT to sink into alcoholic stupor in some Eastern European corner where you can be more easily taken advantage of. Or, indeed, any corner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dukeboy749r Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 [ QUOTE ] Onwards and upwards Riz, it will come along when you're not looking!! [/ QUOTE ] More willy stuff... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dukeboy749r Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 Heck Riz, down but not out. Don't think of it as a missed opportuity, think of it as saving time - she's missing out, not you. DO NOT THINK ABOUT WOMEN, well that's bound to cause a problem, just don't only think about women. Get out and about, a mini rally (haha - a car rally, not a small gathering...!) You'll still be reet! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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