louboolicious Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 :(Hey everyone I need a third opinion, to prove whether I am or am not a paranoid gf. I've been choked with the cold, sat in my house for a week all alone. With too much time to think. For the past couple of weeks my bf has been chattin to one of my best mates online a lot, planning my birthday. Every second sentence that comes out his mouth these days is "oh Ms X said said, Ms X said that". Which didnt really bother me tbh. Until yesterday. He turned up at my house with my mate, tellin me they'd just spent 3 hours at the gym together. Joined together and everything . They spend 10 mins chattin then leave. 5 hours later, i still havent heard from him. So i text him asking what he's up to. Him and Ms X are at the shoppin centre. At that point i decide to ignore him for a while, until i can think it through. Today i text him asking him what he was playing at and joked that he probably took her out to dinner. His reply? "No we had lunch actually". I said i barely heard from him, he was too busy with Ms X yesterday. His reply? "Yep u got me there." Seriously? Am i just being a jealous old moo? Or is there something going on there... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rustynuts Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 That's well dodgy. When you're feeling better, fancy going out for a drink sometime? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mollox Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 How long have you been going out? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
louboolicious Posted January 4, 2009 Author Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 4 and a half years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mollox Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 Actually, time is irrelevant, it doesn't sound on at all and I wouldn't think it was right. Ask him if he thinks its right that while you're laid up in bed, he's off spending every minute with your best friend. If he says yes, do the same with his best friend.... He might be being really naive, he might be fed up, or they might be falling for each other. Best confront it before you either die of paranoia or it actually happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chick Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 Or is there something going on there... sorry Loooby Lou but think you might have answered that one for yourself - sounds like a night out of the town with some real friends is in order Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mollox Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 Oh and definitely don't let him drive your car. He can drive hers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
louboolicious Posted January 4, 2009 Author Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 Oh and definitely don't let him drive your car. He can drive hers he'll be getting a bus pass then Thanks guys! i thought i was maybe going a bit loopy with all the cough mixture and paracetamol lol..and lettin myself get carried away. But it really DOES seem dodgy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shark_90 Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 I would most definitely have bob on about that if I were you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farmerpalmer Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 very unreasonable behaviour of your bf - if i had done anything even vaguely similar, i would be missing my bollocks. seriously, as others have said, if it looks dodgy, it probably is. you could always play the same game..............rusty & me are up for it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shark_90 Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 Count me in if it's hot and promiscuous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mollox Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 Its probably prudent to suggest that (before you go convicting and sentencing him with your online chums and run off shopping/lunching with farmerpalmer and rustynuts) you have a chat with him first Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tipex Posted January 4, 2009 Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 you've been seeing him long enough to be able to pick up on suspicious behaviour, I take it this is the first time you've felt this way? You should ask him directly about it, not in a confrontational way, but just explain how his current behaviour is affecting you, wether he's up to anything or not, he should understand how your feeling and give an explanation, it's then up to you to choose wether you believe him or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
louboolicious Posted January 5, 2009 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 hmm i've not heard from him in two days.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 hmm i've not heard from him in two days.... He's probably not got out of bed Sorry, I'm not really helping things am I Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
louboolicious Posted January 5, 2009 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 Sorry, I'm not really helping things am I not so much ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 Might be a good idea to watch The Hand That Rocks The Cradle or maybe Single White Female if you haven't seen them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JonC Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 4.5 years is a long time to commit to each other, especially at a young age (I don't mean to be patronising), so surely he should have enough respect for you (as you would him should the shoe be on the other foot) to ask him outright, face to face what is going on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muppetboy Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 He's probably not got out of bed :roflmao: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarMad Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 You have been together for a fair old time and it seems to me he is messing you about and not giving you much if any respect at all. Pull his chain and ask him what he is up to, not calling for 2 days seems a fair old time to me as well. Have you tried to get in touch with him or has he just not called you? :confused: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruiser647 Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 hmm i've not heard from him in two days.... You are out of sight, so out of mind! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
louboolicious Posted January 5, 2009 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 ive text him a few times asking why he's not talking, to which i get no reply. But the stubborn female in me is stopping me from calling him.... Grrr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rustynuts Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 I think the whole thing's off from what you've said. Text her and ask her what's going on! :mad: In fact, phone her and ask straight out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mollox Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 Phone her up and have a normal conversation with her. See if she's uncomfortable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chick Posted January 5, 2009 Report Share Posted January 5, 2009 juts put one of those announcements in local rag announcing U R Dumped and put his piccy in !! (it will make you laugh this time next year I promise) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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