Nelson_R32 Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 I think I'm in love with someone, but I left it too late and now shes with someone else Basically I've known this girl for years through someone else and we've always got on well. However last year she split up with her Boyfriend and it really shook her up and we talked ALLOT, In fact I have PAGES worth of email correspondence from last year. Now, I'm NOT really a commitment person. Women cost time and money, so lets just say my relationships are usually short and sweet Now, I always really liked her and I think she maybe felt the same but I was never brave enough to make the move. And besides this was different, I actually really LIKED her. She is also the sister of someone I know quite well, so I was worried that it would make things difficult Anyway, to cut a long story short I've checked out her facebook page and now find she has a Boyfriend and for some reason this makes me INSANELY jealous and upset. Now, you know when someone just looks like a prick? Thats the impression I get, I'm not suggesting he's a nasty piece of work. He just looks like a muppet I guess what I'm saying is I'm much better than that and why isn't it me. So, what should I do? Pull this girl to one side when I next see her and tell her how I feel? Say I meant to tell her ages ago but I didn't know how to handle the situation? Now, this could be the Corona talking, but help me, I think I'm in love Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brabus Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 How would you feel if she was single now? Would you step up to the plate? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nelson_R32 Posted February 22, 2008 Author Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Without a doubt Chrispy, I was just building up the courage to tell her and then I find she's with someone else The only thing that worries me now is the fear of rejection as she's got someone else...the prick Seriously though, I'm confident she would choose me over him, I'm just not sure how she'd react to a heartspill Only one way to find out I guess! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Why not continue your close friendship with her and see what you can find out about how she feels about this other guy. Be her confidante and be ready to smoothly moor alongside. Flirt with her and note how she reacts. Her sixth sense will possibly alert her to your feelings but I wouldn't declare them just yet. Otherwise you are putting her on the spot and it's not usually so black & white for most women. Such drama can easily get a bit 18th Century!! Flirt!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sc00t Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Yeah, give her a hint that your slightly upset with the idea of her with someone else and see how she reacts. Don't leave it Nelson , life is too short ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AvantSE Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Just stick to cars; much less grief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 [ QUOTE ] Just stick to cars; much less grief. [/ QUOTE ] ....So true, but there's a lot of fun to be had in the initial stages of a relationship. Stay in close touch with her so you are in position ready. And tease her a bit...... FLIRT!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brabus Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Talk to her, tell her how you feel but make sure it's not because she has a boyfriend. You can even pretend you don't know, there is no upside to that. If she loves you she'll dump him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Don't look over serious if you tell her how you feel but ask her to hang out with you and then take it from there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nelson_R32 Posted February 22, 2008 Author Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 The most annoying thing is that she lives miles away and I can't see her this weekend because I can't put any more miles on the A3. Hence the reason I've been on TSN all night I'll go there next week and make the 'just passing' excuse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 A took out a girl 11 years ago who was seeing another guy at the time. We've been together ever since and now have a 2 year old boy too, so hey give it a go Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sc00t Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 The thing is Nelson i bet you can't wait a week. Can't you email her and ask how she is ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farmerpalmer Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Go for it ( and good luck) or you may never know if it was meant to be Life is too short to worry about regrets -better to regret something you have done, than what you wish you had done So let her know how you feel - you can only get shot down once good luck fella Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 I think the important thing for Nelson is HOW to best let her know how he feels. Go in too strong and serious and he's likely to frighten her away. Nelson, you need to ask yourself whether you want a seriously long term relationship or not. Go for it but do so with a 'light' touch, at least at first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brabus Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 This thread is useless without pics Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sc00t Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 [ QUOTE ] This thread is useless without pics [/ QUOTE ] And her email ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calm Chris Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Carpe momentum...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
byron13 Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Are you sure it's not that she is with someone else now that makes you want her? Fickle us blokes !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CabGirl Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 [ QUOTE ] The most annoying thing is that she lives miles away and I can't see her this weekend because I can't put any more miles on the A3. [/ QUOTE ] If you loved her you'd go to the end of the world..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mo-S3 Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Has she actually told you herself that she has a boyfriend or have you just read it on facebook. Maybe shes's just put it in there so she doesnt get hassled; i dont know, but you'd be a muppet of the furry kind if you didnt get in your car and go and see her and tell her how you feel. What have you got to lose? Worse she can say is no sorry, but she will always know that she will always have you as a good friend and that you might still be interested in her when she breaks up from the current guy ( if there is one). Do IT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] The most annoying thing is that she lives miles away and I can't see her this weekend because I can't put any more miles on the A3. [/ QUOTE ] If you loved her you'd go to the end of the world..... [/ QUOTE ] ....You see, guys, this is what most women expect! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nelson_R32 Posted February 23, 2008 Author Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 I found out on her facebook and she made no indication to me she had hooked up with someone She lives 60 miles away so it's hardly just down the road, which is why car is out of the question. Maybe I should give her a call and try and arrange a meet-up next weekend? Believe me, I know the difference and these emotions are not due to jealousy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steve2 Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 Neil, borrow a pool car Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steffiraf Posted February 23, 2008 Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 I'm in a similar situation. I'm friends with a bloke who really is special to me, but i darent/wont tell him how i feel. He knows i fancy him, but he thinks its just a joke between us. I dont think he feels the same way, but saying that there is an undercurrent that makes me feel he doesnt see me as just an aqaintance(if that makes sense). Telling him how i feel is not an option, nor is inviting him for a random night out. I should point out that he is a lot younger than me in years, but not in mind. I really couldnt just say it. Sorry to hijack the thread ETA.. he is single, he told me when he split from his most recent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nelson_R32 Posted February 23, 2008 Author Report Share Posted February 23, 2008 I want to send her a text but I'm struggling on what to say I want it to be subtle enough for her to reply but not so subtle she doesn't all (e.g. How are you?) A pack of beer and a night at home isn't really healthy at the moment It's wracking my brain and I think I'm 'Love Sick' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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