FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 My girlfriend has left me, I'm totally gutted I wish somebody was on here to talk to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 She has kicked me out, I really have nowhere to go I've not done anything wrong, I wish I knew what to do Sat here drinking, feeling very lonely I know I must sound like a weak muppet It wasn't until I come on here, that it's really hit me, I'm at a loss Sorry for being a prat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparky Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Sorry to hear that Frankie. I'm just about to head off to bed, but wanted to say that you're not being a prat or a muppet. It's late so you'll not be thinking clearly, and drink won't help. Sit her down in the morning and demand an explanation. At the very least she owes you that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 I can't, she's kicked me out, but told me she wants to get on with her life, which doesn't include me???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lottiefox Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Frankie are you OK??? Gutted for you, what is going on in the world? Let us know you are alright and we're here now to talk to if you need us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shark_90 Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Jesus mate. This seems out of the blue. You have a PM, get in touch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TonyD Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Dude, sorry to hear your bad news. I hope you can find some way to work things out and at least get an explanation of why she feel's like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Kicked you out at 2.00am !?! WTF!?? That sounds very harsh. Did you do something to deserve such treatment? - If not, you're better off without such a person in your life - IMO. I assume it's her home that she kicked you out of. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 It gets better Tina has just phoned me and told me we were burgled as well, they've trashed the place, Police think they must have a key I'm all over the place at the mo, not sure what to do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Yeah RR, it is her place, but because of my recent job change, I moved in there a couple of months ago She heard the noises in bed, but thought it was me getting stuff, so left me to it. They even went into her little boys bedroom while he was a sleep. They've taken stupid stuff, but trashed all the big things like telly, DVD, Stereo ect. Because I've only just moved in, its not insured Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Thanks for all the kind words, and PMs from evreybody. Can't talk to anybody else at the mo, juts keep breaking down Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 I'm sorry but why has she "kicked you out"? Where were you while this burglary was going on? Sounds as if her being distraught over the personal invasion of burglars and especially the potential danger to her little boy, has caused her (understandably in the circumstances perhaps) to lash out at you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MOSE Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Mate.......PM me ya number, its on a phone I'm not using at the mo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeilB Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Feckin hell Frankie, what a kick in the balls. To be kicked out is tough but for next to no reason is even worse, were all here for you though buddy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 She kicked me out because she thinks she's on a emotional rollercoaster at the mo, and thinks I'm the cause of it, but really, it's news to me. I was/am down in Devon looking aftetr my kids, who I've got to go and pick up in a bit Cheers MOSE, but rather not actually talk to anyone at the mo, rather stay on here, much appreciated though mate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuntimeFrankie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 I wish I could say it's cos I cheated on her, or have treated her badly, but I haven't. She's on antidepressanst at the mo, and can't sleep because her mind is over-active. I'm trying to help, but if somebody keeps refussing help, what can you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 "she thinks she's on a emotional rollercoaster at the mo" and "she's on antidepressanst at the mo, and can't sleep because her mind is over-active" - All sound as if she's going through a bad time. She's lashing out at you cos you are there to lash out at and cos you are in a close relationship. If you love her then you'll have to give her space but be strong for her and stay in touch. Try not to take it personally (difficult!). Hopefully she'll gradually realise you are emotionally supporting her. You've got to be very unselfish in this and stop thinking how hurt you are. Ask yourself whether she is generally like this in her behaviour and whether you want to be involved with such a person and if she's not worth the hassle then stay away. Don't lose your own strength in this - You can't help someone if you are in need of help yourself. I'm not wanting to sound harsh but only to try and help by offering very realistic advice. [Gotta go and have breakfast and a bath etc] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Holy crap Frankie! Really sorry to hear this mate, what a disaster. Women are odd creatures at the best of times though and maybe when she's had time to calm down and reflect she'll have second thoughts. Hang on in there. If there's one thing that has shone through on this Agony Aunt forum it's that non of us are alone in being the only people to have total disasters in life, and that, whilst it never feels like it at the time, things have a tendancy to sort themselves out one way or another eventually and things do get better... Best of luck mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danksy Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 OMFG hope things get better for you soon fella I can offer you nothing other than a sympathetic ear i am afraid. I'm sure you will find the strength to get through this mate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calm Chris Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Do you work with her ?? Nightmare, relationship and emotional issues, her on Prozac and you end up being the centre of wrath. Be strong, try to remain supportive and I hope you manage to resolve some of the issues. I would question the anti depressants, most girls I've know that are on meds are as batty as fruit cakes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedRobin Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Hear, Hear! re the anti-depressants - They just put off and don't cure imo. Plus they can contribute to the roller-coaster. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 [ QUOTE ] Hear, Hear! re the anti-depressants - They just put off and don't cure imo. Plus they can contribute to the roller-coaster. [/ QUOTE ] With all respect Mr. Red it actually sounds like you don't know much about depression. Some people get it because of a chemical imbalance - it's not just a matter of somebody being extra sad. A lot of the drugs are aimed at addressing this imbalance and they work wonders for most. Don't get me wrong I do think sometimes they're handed out a bit too much (impression, not based on fact before I get GCab'ed ) however to write them off as happy pills is, well, wrong. So there Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calm Chris Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 Sounds like Mac has some experience of anti depressants . For some they are a real benefit, but sadly with GP's writing out scripts before you even sit down for a chat, I would venture that 50% of the depressant taking population really don't need them. They just need a cuddle and the ability to loosen up a bit Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bounce Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 I'd agree with sometimes they are given out abit willy nilly, probably to people who don't need them, alot of people who do need them don't want them, my doctor took 3 years to talk me into taking them, when i did give in i was on them for 6 months just enough to help with my mood while i picked myself up and brushed myself down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 I do - but not for me, for my ex. I was a bit surprised to see them prescribed but they did make a massive difference for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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