shark_90 Posted May 28, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Ok. She's gone, complete with all her things. She wouldn't listen and refused to try to understand. I'm pretty upset about it. Thanks for your advice and support guys, and thanks for proving to me that I'm not insane about the whole pictures thing. I don't know what to do now. I feel lost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snail Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Sounds like a lucky escape Shark. Id wanna kick the @ss of anyone taking upskirts of the missus, and she would be the same of peeps taking dodgy pics of me. If you had an open relationship, i could understand, but she just sounds mad! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarMad Posted May 29, 2005 Report Share Posted May 29, 2005 I think its the best thing that she has left. If she didn't want to understand how you felt the way that you did then there is no point being together. It will be tough for a while without her but you will soon realise that it was actually causing you more pain than pleasure. Sitting next to my other half she says don't go back to her either. I think once bitten twice shy is the way to go. They aren't all like that mate as I am sure you know already. The next sexy lady will be round the next corner I'm sure and this one might love and care for you as much as you do her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewNiceMrMe Posted May 29, 2005 Report Share Posted May 29, 2005 Shark, I've just re-read the thread the a view to getting a better angle on the state of things. To be honest mate, you're best shot of her. I'd be very uncomfortable with the situation regarding all her supposed male friends bearing in mind one is an ex-boyfriend and the other can't help but tell her he loves her. No-one who thought much of you would take the piss financially either. There are no doubt difficult weeks/months ahead but the fact is that no-one wants a one-sided relationship and if it's any consolation I don't think you've been in the slightest bit over-bearing or over-protective. If she wouldn't listen, as CarMad says above, then it's just confirmation of your fears. Hang on in there and Miss Right will arrive. Theres a lot of truth in the saying that the best are worth waiting for. Plus, as annoying as the phrase is, there really are plenty of fish in the sea - and Sharks can feast until the find the right one mate! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saab Posted May 29, 2005 Report Share Posted May 29, 2005 Isn't it ironic that no matter how long you have been seeing someone it often takes a split before you actually find out what they can really be like when the chips are down? Sorry that things have gone so wrong. It seems to me that she isn't prepared to make an effort to save your relationship so you're probably better off making a clean break and moving on like everyone else has said. I know that it is easier said than done of course. . There are some women who seems to have an endless amount of ex-boxfriends and "followers" knocking about, and it always makes seeing them a bit of a nightmare in my experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomk Posted May 29, 2005 Report Share Posted May 29, 2005 i agree with that , rose tinted glasses and allt hat , i always seem to make people what i wnat them to be Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shark_90 Posted May 29, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 29, 2005 Yeah I know that feeling Tom. M3Me your comments are really appreciated mate, as are yours CarMad. We exchanged a few gory texts yesterday afternoon and I gave her a proper piece of my mind, all completely deserved too. It didn't take her long to start missing me, come 11 o'clock she was on the phone. I spoke to her but I didn't make a play for anything. I just chatted to her and I think made her feel a bit better. I'm done chasing, and I'm done laying it on thick. I've done my bit. Better start enjoying things eh? Beer tonight anyone?.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ian_m Posted May 29, 2005 Report Share Posted May 29, 2005 Shark, I recently experienced a similar relationship, I didnt have the problems of the other blokes but I too had a very light wallet and that is no fun at all!! I think you will be a lot better off witout her, Take it easy buddy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shark_90 Posted May 30, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 30, 2005 Jesus Christ guys you were so right. She turned into the most evil person I have ever known last night, and I'm so glad I have nothing to do with her any more. Now I just need to get over the feelings! A lucky escape! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorburn Posted May 30, 2005 Report Share Posted May 30, 2005 [ QUOTE ] Jesus Christ guys you were so right. She turned into the most evil person I have ever known last night, and I'm so glad I have nothing to do with her any more. Now I just need to get over the feelings! A lucky escape! [/ QUOTE ] Evil evil creatures. Well most of them anyway... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shark_90 Posted May 31, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 She went to a house party on Sunday night, and look what she was getting up to [se attachment]. She was that wasted she doesn't remember it, or any of the evil things she said to me. The thread on the other forum goes as follows: Heidi: OMG! i don't remember that at all Jo (pictures poster): There were other things too hun BUT better had NOT say on here!! lol Heidi: Oh no I don't remember anything. But i haven't stopped being sick all day. Come on msn? She was ringing me up while she was at this party crying her eyes out ruining my night making me worry about her! She said she wanted to go home but she didn't know where she was, or how to get back. I told her to ring her mum, she agreed to, but when I rang her back she just said she hadn't rang her mum, hung up, and switched her phone off! I sent her a few choice texts telling her not to bother involving me again when she's not capable of looking after herself because I'm sick of being worried about her, and also a couple of nasty ones which I felt were justified. I then got a voicemail from her sister with her telling me what she thought of me after reading the texts (again, she doesn't know the full story, so I put her in her place and told her where to get off) and 3 very long voicemails from Heidi herself, telling me that she hates me, never wants to hear from me again, she's so over me, she thinks I'm putting my illness on (of all the things to throw at a man!), if I am ill she doesn't want to be with someone that she'll have to look after, she doesn't want kids with someone who's gonna die on her, she thinks I'm a complete wa*ker and a c*ck.. She was hammered and the voicemails were so childish...but they hurt, a lot. She did apologise yesterday (first time for everything) as she claimed she did not know what she was saying. I told her it was inexcusable and to leave me alone. Grr, why is this so bloody complicated! I just want to not be bothered by the whole thing and forget about it/her.. is that actually possible or does it just happen in fairy stories? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BURTON Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Dude what the *insert swearing here* Now she looks like a nice lass. But to be doing that is just wrong.... Everyone likes to have a laugh and what not... But she is a Boiler plain and simple!! I had one of these last year... 2 months seemed like 2 years! Fleeced me also. But slowly getting the money back. Time to move on put it down to a chapter in your life! You don't need to hassle, worry and sadness that you will have with her. Sounds like you have done the right thing. Its a braver thing to say NO to it all and stop it! Sounds strange but it really is. Leave her to her own devices. She will relise her mistakes and then its her fault. Try and move on and forget about her. My ex who is much like this, started saying stuff about me and her, sexual stuff and money etc. to my mates they just told her where to go, she brings me up in convo to people and always says not to bother her.. Because she has it bad and is gutted that I am with someone else. I mean who says to your ex do you love your g/f more than me... Its just... well you know.. Move on mate and just enjoy your freedom. Another one will come along... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brabus Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Mate, I've just read this thread with interest and although she seems to be a pretty girl you are so much better out of it. Chin up mate! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheechy Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Can only agree with Burton and Chris on this one. Don't give her the chance to take another swipe at you - you did the right thing. Try to spend more time with your mates and dont mull over it on your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shark_90 Posted May 31, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Cheers boys.. your words are appreciated. The newest development is that she thinks she had her drink spiked on Sunday night and blames that for her actions and all the stuff she said to me. I told her it's still inexcusable. She's starting to realise that I talk a lot of sense and that I'm probably worth listening to, and I don't "always have to be right" because as I explained to her, I don't usually pipe up unless I am pretty confident. She'll realise eventually what she's lost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BURTON Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Also that you put up with it alot longer than me.. With the blokes she was hanging around with. Amazing when women know they have you and the things you will do to keep them etc.. Blokes are open and most of the time honest. Women always seem to have some other objective and something else up there sleve normally another bloke. Also with my ex she used to test me. Left me notes on my car saying stuff like I have seen you around etc. seeing if I would tell her, then telling me about a Ex who wants her back, everything was a big test. used to anoy her that I didn't really care about her ex's. She is a very insecure person. Best one is that she used to flip out about the people I had been with.. Even tho she had been with more.. Was funny watching her face... Last thing you want is to be tested all the time.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Insurance Jon Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 be strong buddy, it will be hard but you won't do yourself any favours going back. That pic would be the final straw for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorburn Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 [ QUOTE ] I'm probably worth listening to, and I don't "always have to be right" because as I explained to her, I don't usually pipe up unless I am pretty confident. She'll realise eventually what she's lost. [/ QUOTE ] My ex was like that, then she realised that generally I was right and is a bit of a mess now. You're better off without her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a4tdi130 Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Get a new mobile phone / sim and don't give her the number. I go back to my original post on this topic where I said ; "Maybe it's your girlfriend that needs talking to - going out in a skirt and letting him take photo's of her? How many "attempts" did it take before she thought "oh hang on maybe I shouldn't stand there whilst he puts the camera on the floor for the 10th time". Sounds to me like she wanted to have the pictures taken as much as he wanted to take them?" Sorry about being harsh but ... stop wasting your time on her, every post you make about her on here now is just a few minutes of your life wasted. Forget her, she's really not worth it. A spiked drink doesn't make you get your knickers out and rub yourself up and down on somebody's crotch does it. And it doesn't take a genius to work out what went on after that photo was taken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazza_g Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 [ QUOTE ] The newest development is that she thinks she had her drink spiked on Sunday night and blames that for her actions and all the stuff she said to me. I told her it's still inexcusable. [/ QUOTE ] I suppose its possible, but doubtful ! Generally women + booze = nightmare ! What is it about women that makes them drink until they fall over or can't remember what happened ?? When it comes to alcohol, women - know your limits ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silentandy Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] The newest development is that she thinks she had her drink spiked on Sunday night and blames that for her actions and all the stuff she said to me. I told her it's still inexcusable. [/ QUOTE ] I suppose its possible, but doubtful ! Generally women + booze = nightmare ! What is it about women that makes them drink until they fall over or can't remember what happened ?? When it comes to alcohol, women - know your limits ! [/ QUOTE ] I agree that too much drink can mean you end up doing things you normally wouldn't. But generally, spiked or not... alcohol tends to just make you lose your inhibitions and say what is really on your mind. IMHO whatever is said while under the influence is no different (and no less hurtful in this case) than it would have been if said while the person is sober. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewNiceMrMe Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 [ QUOTE ] That pic would be the final straw for me [/ QUOTE ] Agreed here too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdog Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 [ QUOTE ] Mate, I've just read this thread with interest and although she seems to be a pretty girl you are so much better out of it. Chin up mate! [/ QUOTE ] Definitely what he said. You're SO well out of it, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabster Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Mate life is tough enough as it is you need people who love you and support you not hinder your existance. I have had to do the same in the last month and its hard, as you go on you also forget the bad stuff and just remember the awsome times. I have been going on and off with the same girl for years, we always go back together and after three months the same poo always happens. You need someone who respects themselves and you or its all for nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ari Posted May 31, 2005 Report Share Posted May 31, 2005 Absolutely right. A girlfriend/partner/lover/wife/whatever should be with you and on your side and pulling with you (and you her), not against you and pulling against you. And anyway, she's too damn thin and they're always trouble. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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